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Wired for Love Couples Retreats:

Creating Your Owner’s Manual for a Secure-Functioning Relationship

Secure functioning is the outcome. Science is the source.

What if you and your partner could create the fulfilling relationship you truly desire?

How does deeper connection, better communication, and less conflict sound?

How about a relationship based on sensitivity, fairness, trust, and mutual respect?

You both can have all these things.

Based on neuroscience research and attachment theory, Wired for Love Couples Retreats will help you see how you can strengthen your relationship, build intimacy, and manage conflict.

Work directly with world-renowned couple therapist Stan Tatkin, PsyD, MFT, and Tracey Boldemann-Tatkin, PhD, to transform your relationship over the course of eight weekends.

It’s a psychobiological approach to better, more secure-functioning relationships. You and your partner will see and feel a difference.

Wired for Love Online Retreat

PACT Institute founders Stan Tatkin and Tracey Boldemann-Tatkin are now offering their wildly popular Wired for Love Couples Retreat online.

This is a unique opportunity to work directly with Stan and Tracey in a small, exclusive group of couples.

Over the course of eight live online sessions, you and your partner will have opportunities to ask questions and get answers to real-life issues. You’ll learn to:

Establish a nurturing two-person system called the Couple Bubble
Understand how your brain can help you and hurt you in a relationship
Acknowledge your attachment styles – how your brain relates to other people
Form mutually satisfying and lasting agreements to make decision-making easier
Fight well and repair hurt quickly

Don’t expect a talking head or a lecture. Each interactive session is jam-packed with demonstrations, exercises, and opportunities to practice powerful new tools to help you and your partner connect more deeply.

You’ll also have some “homework” to do as a couple in between live online sessions with Stan and Tracey.

The Wired for Love Online Retreat includes:

8 live online sessions, totalling 20 hours of time with Stan and Tracey
A video library in which Stan explains the concepts of Wired for Love (access for up to 3 months after the retreat ends).
A Wired for Love handbook
The How to Fight Well ebook
Exercises and Brain Games for your to explore with your partner
Handouts, resources, and more

2023 Wired for Love Retreats

Fall Option 1

This retreat meets on the following Sundays from 9am to 11:30am Pacific Time:

October 8, October 15, October 22, October 29, November 12, November 19, December 3, and December 10

Investment: $1,299

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Fall Option 2

This retreat meets on the following Sundays from 1:30pm to 4pm Pacific Time:

October 1, October 15, October 22, October 29, November 5, November 19, December 3, and December 10

Investment: $1,299

Convert to your time zone here.

What couples are saying about working with Stan and Tracey:

"This was the best workshop ever. Stan and Tracey are phenomenal teachers. The material was amazing, as was my experience."

"Excellent workshop with skilled and caring leaders. Stan is so skilled, and Tracey, warm and a great partner. Learned so much."

"Stan and Tracey modeled that we can be dealing with serious topics but still laugh and be light-hearted about it. They normalized conflict and demonstrated how a secure-functioning relationship can navigate it."

"Stan is an incredible teacher. In a few hours, he was able to impart a depth of understanding that I figured would take months. He doesn’t teach knowledge, he teaches understanding. Very helpful workshop on becoming a better couple."

Can an online retreat really help my relationship?

Online retreats offer all the benefits of an in-person retreat…right from the comfort of your couch. The online retreat encourages you and your partner to set aside time to work on your relationship every weekend over the course of 8 weeks. You’ll get away from the pressures of daily life – at least for a few hours each week – and work with a world-renowned couple therapist and the developer of the Psychobiological Approach to Couples Therapy®.

You and your partner will spend time focusing on and learning about each other. You’ll practice meaningful exercises, practice using new tools, and develop agreements that will serve your relationship for the long term.

Who is the retreat for?

Wired for Love retreats are designed for couples to attend together. During the retreat, you and your partner will have the opportunity to practice skills and use new tools to connect more deeply.

All couples in a committed relationship and those who want to improve their relationship are welcome to attend – whether you’re needing a reset or wanting to make a good relationship even stronger and more fulfilling. You do not need to be married or planning to get married to attend.

Couple therapists are welcome to attend with their partners in a non-professional context.

Who is the retreat NOT for?

The Wired for Love Couples Retreat is not couples therapy. It is not intended for couples in crisis. For example, if one of you has experienced a recent betrayal, if you’re dealing with untreated psychiatric issues or addiction, or if there’s intimate partner violence, we encourage you to seek therapy with a PACT therapist.

The retreat is not intended for therapists looking to learn more about PACT therapy. There will be no CE credits offered for this retreat. If you are a therapist who’d like to learn about PACT therapy, we invite you to check out our PACT training programs for therapists that do offer CE hours.

What will you do at the retreat?

Stan and Tracey lead couples through meaningful exercises and fun experiments designed to help you identify your partner’s attachment style, read each other’s body language and arousal states, and manage conflicts. Hands-on activities help couples create secure-functioning relationships and stronger, more fulfilling connections. No public discussion or disclosure is required. All work is done as a couple. Stan and Tracey and other PACT therapists are available to offer support during the live portions of the retreat, and you’ll also have some “homework” to do as a couple between sessions.

What will you get out of the retreat?

Understand the basic biology of relationship connection and the psychobiological particulars of your partner.
Recognize your own and your partner’s relationship styles.
Read your partner’s body language and nonverbal cues.
Play well and fight well together.
Form mutually satisfying and lasting agreements based on fairness, justice, and sensitivity.
Build greater intimacy.
Move toward secure functioning with your partner.

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The science behind Wired for Love

Stan Tatkin, PsyD, MFT, and Tracey Boldemann-Tatkin, PhD, created the Wired for Love Couples Retreat based on the Psychobiological Approach to Couple Therapy (PACT)®, which Stan developed. PACT uses cutting-edge research in three areas: neuroscience, attachment theory, and the biology of human arousal.

Neuroscience. The study of the human brain. Understanding how the brain works provides a physiological basis for understanding how people act and react within relationships. Basically, some areas of your brain are wired to reduce threat and danger and seek security, while others are geared to establish mutuality and loving connection.

Attachment Theory. The explanation for the biological need to bond with others. Experiences in early relationships create a blueprint that informs the sense of safety and security you bring to adult relationships. Insecurities that have been carried through life can wreak havoc for partners if these issues are not recognized or resolved.

Biology of Human Arousal. How the mind and body work together when faced with a perceived threat or stressful situation Understanding the biologically and psychologically ingrained fight or flight response can help you appreciate your own and your partner’s moment-to-moment ability to manage energy, alertness, and readiness to engage under stress.

If my partner and I break up before the retreat, can I get a refund?

We understand life happens, and sometimes partners do not stay together. We will issue a refund if requested more than one month before the start of the retreat. No refunds will be given within one month of the retreat. If your life or your relationship is in crisis, please hold off on participating in this retreat and seek the support of a PACT therapist.

What couples are saying about the Wired for Love Online Retreat:

"I was truly blown away by how relevant almost every single demo was. People with completely different lives than ours still had similar problems, and Stan and Tracey's advice to them was so helpful to us."

"Simply wonderful. Although we were in Zoom meetings, I experienced no sense of disconnection from Stan, Tracey, or the other participants. The breakouts were fertile and novel learning experiences also. I was thoroughly impressed with the use of technology, its efficiency and effectiveness."

"This retreat helped my marriage tremendously and exceeded my expectations.” “To be better able to communicate and connect with [my partner], this retreat was a game changer for us … I can’t state enough how much this retreat has impacted us."

"We learned to regulate each other and to have rituals that keep us regulated and connected. It has revolutionized our interactions."

"Amazing! I came with an intention to be open, [to] truly understand and learn about myself and my partner and interplay, and absolutely came away with that. Stan and Tracey created a safe environment that allowed us to be vulnerable, which truly enhanced our learning. Thank you!"